Episode 176: Discovering Your Private Fashion (Deep Dive)

This week, we’re sharing a deep dive on our expertise cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re additionally sharing how we bought coloration consults what our greatest colours are. 

Plus, we’re sharing ideas for locating a method that felt proper for us.

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Present Notes:

Learn The Curated Closet and take a look at The Curated Closet Workbook.

Try Emma’s weblog publish: 3 Issues I Discovered from The Curated Closet

We bought our coloration consults from createdcolorful.com

Emma’s Shade: Mild Summer time (pale colours like lavender and funky tones)

Elsie’s Shade: Deep Autumn (browns and plum)

Ideas for Discovering Your Fashion and Feeling Good:


-Take a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds you continue to love from OLD photographs and you will see that issues that really feel traditional to you.

– When you have clothes that you just put on by default that makes you are feeling unhealthy about your self, let it go.

-Create a temper board on your wardrobe.


-Have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs nicely and that you’ll put on loads.

-Your garments ought to replicate how attractive you might be.

-Should you love one thing, purchase it in a couple of colours.

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Episode 176 Transcript:

Emma: You’re listening to The gorgeous Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re sharing a deep dive into our expertise, of cleansing out and curating our personal closets. We’re sharing how we bought coloration consults and study when our greatest colours are, and we’re sharing ideas for the way we discovered a method that felt proper for us.

Elsie: Yeah, a method deep dive. I’m excited to do that episode, the colour seek the advice of half is new, after which the curated closet half. I really feel like we’ve been speaking about that since like episode one, nevertheless it actually is such a giant a part of what I believe helped me create a closet that like the place you actually put on your stuff. Like a very powerful factor, you actually put on it, proper? 

Emma: Similar. That’s all the time the factor that I inform buddies in the event that they’re like, I’m attempting to work on my private model. Not that anybody’s asking me for style recommendation, however I’m all the time like, oh, I learn this guide, it has a workbook. You are able to do one or the opposite or each, you don’t need to have learn the guide to benefit from the workbook. Individuals all the time ask that too, and Curated Closet is superior. 

Elsie: Yeah. Nicely, the factor I’ve realized from my mother period is that even if you end up like, I don’t do style running a blog, I don’t think about myself a style particular person. I don’t actually like purchasing that a lot. I don’t actually care. You continue to put on garments day by day and you continue to want to be ok with your self day by day and it nonetheless issues. I type of don’t see a time in life when it doesn’t matter in any respect. As a result of it impacts, no less than for me, how I really feel, how comfy I really feel, and I don’t know the way I current myself in public and simply the whole lot like that. So I believe that it’s a fantastic subject for type of anybody and I had a lot enjoyable. The seek the advice of was positively like a brand new expertise. First, let’s discuss concerning the Curated Closet a bit bit. So for anybody who doesn’t know or has by no means heard of this. We love this guide known as The Curated Closet, and we particularly suggest the Curated Closet workbook, which we are going to hyperlink in our present notes. It’s identical to a fantastic useful resource if perhaps you’ve graduated faculty or perhaps you’ve turn out to be a mother, or one thing’s occurred to the place your life has actually modified and you’re feeling such as you’re in between, you don’t know what to do, so that you’re carrying the identical factor again and again, what’s in your closet doesn’t actually match the best way you’re residing anymore. That is the person who this guide is de facto made for, and it occurs to all of us a number of occasions in our life. For me, I’ve all the time felt like due to our historical past of running a blog and being in footage loads and stuff, I’ve all the time felt very comfy getting dressed up for photographs. I understand how I wanna look in photographs. I understand how to do my make-up, photographs, hair, and the whole lot. Being in photographs is straightforward for me. However discovering like an on a regular basis model that isn’t simply pajamas has all the time been very difficult for me and I’m very all or nothing. So for me, I normally deal with on a regular basis garments. Yeah, like mother uniform kind of factor. After which it additionally helped me study what I’m carrying the largest proportion. She has all these workouts within the guide like, what do you put on most days? What do you put on from time to time? And I spotted that after I first began, the vast majority of my closet was form of like weblog garments. The place we don’t actually go to weblog occasions as a lot as we used to, however belongings you would put on in public at a weblog factor, simply type of loopy garments. After which the stuff we’d put on in footage, which is type of loopy garments, after which stuff that we put on in our on a regular basis life, which is barely much less loopy garments. And yeah, for me I spotted that I have to spend extra on issues that I’m gonna put on 100 occasions, just like the issues I put on on a regular basis and I have to spend much less on so many outfits that I’ve worn like twice. 

Emma: Yeah. And I truly wrote a weblog publish some time in the past and we’ll hyperlink it within the present notes, nevertheless it’s known as three issues I realized from The Curated Closet. And for me, that weblog publish is type of like a fast overview synopsis of my largest takeaways from it. So for those who’re interested by that, test it out. Earlier than I learn the guide after which did the workbook, she has like numerous challenges in there that you are able to do. Earlier than I did that, I felt like I had numerous my closet that I used to be air quotes, saving like I by no means wore it, however I preferred all of it. I simply didn’t ever put on it cuz it didn’t truly match my actual life, it type of match this like fantasy life or this previous life, cuz we used to love work out of an workplace collectively and we had a bit crew after which ultimately we began working from residence. And I’ve labored from residence now for a very long time, like eight or 9 years and the kind of work I do is a mixture of pc work. So I’m sitting at a pc like lots of people, but additionally numerous cooking within the kitchen and getting down low to take photographs and crafting and getting down low to take photographs. After which additionally since I turned a mother once more, numerous getting down low choose up my son or various things like that, so numerous, I don’t wanna put on yoga pants each single day. That doesn’t really feel like my model or comfy to me. I imply, it’s comfy, however I imply, it doesn’t make me really feel put collectively. For some individuals it would, for me, it doesn’t, however I spotted I had numerous garments that simply didn’t, I wanted one thing that was extra, I don’t know if health or athletic is the fitting phrase, however issues that I might transfer in much more than I actually had realized, in order that type of factor. After which I additionally grew up, I really feel like in highschool, you’ll most likely keep in mind we had a extremely tight price range, clearly like everybody does in highschool since you like work on the Greenback Tree, however I had numerous garments that had been like issues I type of cobbled collectively from the thrift retailer. In order that they had been largely fairly wild, and that was enjoyable, however I don’t really feel like I ever realized how to buy like actually good fundamentals that match me nicely. And that’s like most likely the primary factor that I realized within the curated closet I used to be carrying numerous garments that the match wasn’t proper, I wanted to get them tailor-made. Or I have to spend extra and get one thing that matches me higher as a result of perhaps I purchased one thing off of a clearance rack and it didn’t fairly match me, however the value was proper. After which I ended up not carrying it loads trigger it didn’t really feel nice in it. And so it’s like, okay, you both have to get this tailor-made or it is advisable to donate it and go purchase one thing that matches you nicely, in order that type of factor. And so ever since then, each single factor in my closet I put on and I like, and I really feel like I’ve tons, I really feel like I’ve no deficit of outfits, which feels so good, however I additionally really feel like I can prepare in like 5 minutes if I have to. And I by no means felt that approach earlier than. I felt like I didn’t really feel very put collectively, I felt like most of my closet was stuff I used to be saving, quote unquote, for an additional time and that point by no means got here. And I additionally felt prefer it truly took me longer to prepare and I didn’t even really feel as put collectively as a result of I simply didn’t know what went collectively. And so now I’ve set uniforms mainly. And I additionally put on numerous jumpsuits as a result of that’s a straightforward one.

Elsie: Yeah, I positively have one other clean-out coming in my future however the factor that I’ve realized essentially the most from the previous, I’ve achieved it a few occasions, after which typically it’s such as you do it after which a couple of years go by and it is advisable to do it once more, no less than that’s how I’m. Considered one of my coping behaviors within the early pandemic was on-line purchasing, so I believe I’ve most likely stated that earlier than, nevertheless it was, and I identical to collected numerous garments that I nonetheless haven’t worn. So I really feel like now, it’s my job to determine what works from this unhealthy purchasing behavior that I had for a second.

Emma: Hey, it occurs to us all. I can’t inform you what number of issues I assumed whereas I used to be breastfeeding. So, no disgrace man. No disgrace. 

Elsie: Yeah. To make clear, I’m not ashamed of it, however I really feel actually unhealthy. Like I don’t wanna waste these items. So I wanna determine it out now. What is going to I actually put on? After which additionally what can I go on to a buddy? Or I most likely gained’t do a web based sale, I’d positively donate. We’d do an property sale once we transfer from this residence. Anyhow, yeah, I simply type of need to kind out all of that. However anyway, the factor I realized up to now from my cleanouts is that I type of all the time return to the identical model. It doesn’t matter what I believe I would like or it doesn’t matter what I’m drawn to that I see different individuals carrying or what’s in model or no matter, I all the time return to the identical kind of look time and again and I all the time have. So I really feel like I do know now and I positively bought this from doing all of the mini workbook sections of The Curated Closet. I do know now what my core model is and I simply have to remain near that and that for me is the easiest way to buy efficiently. 

Emma: The one factor I used to be gonna say, we had been speaking about shopping for stuff randomly, through the pandemic and through breastfeeding, since you’re up at 4:00 AM and all that. Typically, although, I’d say after doing the curated closet and the workbook and over time, I truly store loads lower than I used to, I simply are inclined to spend a bit extra. I’ve like denims that I’ve been carrying now for like seven, eight years as a result of they’ve lasted me that lengthy and so they match me, I imply I clearly don’t put on ’em whereas I used to be pregnant. There was definitely a time the place they didn’t match. However usually, I’ve numerous issues now that it’s like I’ve had this a very long time and yeah, it was type of dear after I purchased it, however now I’m seeing the advantages of shopping for issues that had been a bit bit increased high quality and match me higher. And I can say like, yeah, it’s been years now since I did the group closet and I truly store loads much less, however I do are inclined to spend extra. And so I believe that I’m actually pleased with that change it makes me really feel like I’m buying much less stuff. I’m not biking via issues as a result of I simply thought it was a very good value, nevertheless it wasn’t truly one thing that labored nicely for me. And I really feel just like the issues that I’m bringing into my home and bringing into my life and spending my cash on are staying with me for much longer, and so they’re getting much more use and that makes me actually joyful.

Elsie: Yeah, that’s the objective. That’s the final objective. I believe shopping for issues that you already know you’re gonna put on for years is the very best approach to store. So I positively suggest The Curated Closet to anybody who hasn’t achieved it. And I believe it’s simply such a very good course of I can’t wait to do my subsequent cleanout once more. 

Emma: Yeah, transferring is such a very good time for that. So I’m excited for you, it’s a lot enjoyable. 

Elsie: I nonetheless additionally, I ought to point out, I nonetheless do the Marie Rental factor too, the place you’re taking the whole lot out and put it in a single massive pile and take a look at the whole lot on, after which put it again in solely after you’ve tried it on. I believe that that’s a extremely good technique. I believe there’s simply one thing to it, to getting it bodily out of your closet that prefer it additionally type of forces you. For individuals like me, it forces me to not get distracted and be like, I’ll end this one other day. Attempting on garments is type of boring, and for those who get all of them outta your closet, you then type of need to get them again in, one thing about it really works very well. 

Emma: Yeah, I nearly really feel prefer it helps you do away with issues that you just perhaps wanted to as a result of it’s such as you actually already took it out of your closet prefer it’s now sitting in your mattress or sitting on the ground, and so now it’s important to bodily put it again in. So it’s such as you’re actually making a call to maintain it. Whereas for those who don’t truly take it outta your closet, you simply stroll round your closet and determine for those who wanna preserve issues or not. It’s like there’s no actual, it’s nearly like extra effort to do away with one thing. So for those who’re on the fence, for those who’re like, I actually haven’t worn this in a yr nevertheless it’s cute, then it’s I’ll simply go away it hanging. It’s already hanging right here. Whereas if it’s like sitting on the ground or sitting in your mattress, it’s like, oh, I haven’t worn this in a yr and I can’t consider the following time I’ll put on it. Possibly I ought to give this to a buddy or promote it or donate it, no matter it could be.

Elsie: Sure. Okay, so subsequent up we did Shade consults with Created Colourful is the title of the corporate. So I heard about Created Colourful One Day on, you already know I love to do the Instagram Q&A’s from time to time and I did one the place somebody was like, what season are you? And I used to be like, I don’t know, however I believe I’m both an autumn or a winter is what I’d guess, however I’m unsure. How have you learnt? And somebody DMed me and stated that they did a seek the advice of with created colourful and that it modified their life and I booked one instantly. That’s the advice, proper? Prefer it modified my life. I believe she particularly stated even my husband is getting his personal now, which I used to be like, oh, that’s attention-grabbing. I don’t assume I might get my husband to do that due to all of the selfie selfies you’ll, you’ll hear about it in a minute. There’s numerous selfies. I used to be like, I would like one thing that’s gonna change my life. And so I went on their web site and so they say that they may enable you look higher in your on a regular basis garments. They choose colours that look good on you in your on a regular basis life whenever you’re not carrying make-up. So I used to be like bought. So I signed up for it and I assumed the expertise was so nice. So I’ll clarify a bit bit about the way it works. So first, you fill out a questionnaire after which they ask you for a sure variety of selfies. The selfies are purported to be like, they’ve specs. They’ve a bit video that reveals you the way to take them, however you’re like dealing with a window. They find yourself telling me it’s probably not good to have a white background. And also you maintain up completely different colours of material or you’ll be able to put on completely different colours of material. So it’s just about identical to your face, your hair pulled again, no make-up, and so they simply wanna take a look at you carrying completely different colours. So they offer you all the colours and the primary set I most likely did like. 20 or perhaps 20 to 30 footage. After which on the second set, they ask you for extra particular colours as a result of they’re attempting to love slender down what works and what doesn’t work. After which I suppose for those who didn’t do a very good job, then it’s important to do a 3rd set. We each needed to do third units, proper? 

Emma: Yep, certain did. 

Elsie: However yeah, I used to be like, oh, there’s no approach I’m gonna need to do a 3rd set and I did. So don’t really feel unhealthy for those who do. So I did all of these selfies. There have been so many I felt like I might see on my cellphone like a distinction. Did you are feeling like you might type of inform a few of them had been standing out as like actually good and actually unhealthy? If you like take a look at the collage of all of them collectively in your cellphone. 

Emma: Yeah, and as soon as once more, my jumpsuits got here in very helpful as a result of I actually would identical to maintain all 10 of my jumpsuits as much as my face, and that was like most of my selfies. I had a couple of different sweaters and various things that I held up. I had a sneaking suspicion for a couple of years now that lavender is type of my coloration, which is bizarre as a result of I do love lavender, however I’ve by no means considered purple as my favourite coloration or a coloration that I gravitate in direction of, and lavender’s beautiful. However till it even got here again with the squiggly eighties model, it actually wasn’t even one thing that was on my radar, completely. However I’ve all the time observed after I put on lavender nail polish, I actually prefer it in opposition to my pores and skin after which I’ve a type of lavender jumpsuit and this type of lavender sweater and I’ve all the time thought I’d simply look actually good in them, though I’m like, once more, lavender I’ve by no means considered it as like my coloration. So anyway, I might type of see like from all of the selfies within the folder, I used to be like, yeah, that one type of appears to be like like the perfect, which was my sneaking suspicion. And I used to be like, what is that this gonna imply for my coloration? So, yeah. 

Elsie: Yeah, I might too. And it’s actually attention-grabbing whenever you take a look at your selfies altogether, like in your digicam roll view, how a lot your pores and skin tones change simply by carrying completely different colours, which I didn’t actually know was doable. I didn’t perceive it in any respect earlier than doing this train, so it was very attention-grabbing. So yeah, for my outcome, I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and there are three completely different variations of every one. There’s like gentle, medium, and darkish I believe for each. In order that’s even six completely different choices. What had been you anticipating to get? 

Emma: Most likely the precise reverse of what I bought, which is humorous.

Elsie: Ooh. What had been you anticipating? 

Emma: I used to be open to no matter, however I suppose I hoped for one thing type of fall. I like fall colours as a result of I like fall time, It’s my favourite season, so far as the vibes. I used to be type of hoping, I suppose, for that, however once more, I had the sneaking suspicion that lavender was type of my coloration, which isn’t a fall coloration, clearly. And low and behold, after I did my three rounds of selfies, my coloration is gentle summer season. Which is the best way that they described it, lavender is unquestionably like the colour in there. After which the best way they described it’s it’s numerous colours which are cool tones so probably not heat tones ever. So even for those who’re carrying brown, it’s like a cool tone brown after which nothing tremendous harsh. So like as a substitute of black, I’d look higher in charcoal. After which it’s additionally numerous colours that begin with the phrase pale. So like pale yellow, pale pink, pale purple, which is lavender. So, which is humorous cuz I don’t actually consider myself as a pastel particular person. Once more, I don’t dislike them or something, I really feel like after I see garments I gravitate towards daring colours. Most likely lots of people do as a result of it’s like what stands out to your eye? However these aren’t actually the issues that look nice with my pores and skin. And though I put on make-up most days, I don’t actually put on tremendous full-coverage make-up. I put on type of lighter on a regular basis make-up is how I’d describe it. So I do assume gravitating extra in direction of the colours that go well with me and my pure colours makes extra sense and is simply gonna spotlight my options, which you type of hit on this. However that was one factor that actually bought me as a result of Elsie bought into this and she or he was like, it is best to do it. And I used to be like, I don’t know, We’ll see. However I preferred their web site, or perhaps it was on Instagram that I noticed this, however they talked about the way to discover your proper colours, I don’t assume they used the phrase proper. The colours for you might be extra about highlighting identical to your pure belongings, your eyes, your pores and skin, your hair, even for those who dye your hair, prefer it’s about highlighting you and displaying off who you actually are and what you actually appear like versus hiding it or masking it up or dressing for this fantasy look, that isn’t truly the way you look. It’s simply how a mannequin and {a magazine} look and also you wanna appear like her. 

Elsie: I positively have that downside. When on-line purchasing, I’ve all the time been very influenced by the fashions and the way the fashions look, and I nonetheless even now that I do know what my colours are, and nonetheless continuously am gravitating in direction of outfits which are shot on very dark-skinned black ladies as a result of I identical to how they give the impression of being. I identical to it, it simply appears to be like good. Yeah, but when it’s a pastel then it’s gonna look unhealthy on me and now I do know that. Okay, so I used to be anticipating to get fall or winter and I assumed fall as a result of I simply knew like earth tones or I’ve numerous earth tones in my closet. I’d say my closet is usually earth tones. So I felt like that does make sense as a result of it’s what I’m comfy carrying and really feel good in. However in winter I’ve type of pale pores and skin and I really feel numerous the celeb examples within the autumn have darker pores and skin or are extra like a JLo kind of particular person. And I didn’t actually relate to that, so I assumed perhaps it was winter additionally as a result of I actually like carrying black and I used to be satisfied that black is one among my hottest colours, which was my largest shock. Black is on my don’t put on record, as in it’s not good and I’m so confused. I nonetheless type of don’t consider it, though I settle for that it’s true.

Emma: Nicely as a result of it’s cooler. Proper? So it’s such as you’re purported to put on hotter issues, so it is best to put on a darkish, darkish brown. 

Elsie: They had been like carrying black however with a special coloration with it. I simply love all black, however in truth, my kids look actually good. Considered one of our daughters wears all-black outfits on a regular basis, and she or he appears to be like actually good in them, and I ought to have identified that. I don’t have the identical coloration zone as my children. So anyhow, so I bought deep autumn, which I used to be shocked as a result of the examples whenever you search for the celebrities, it’s like Eva Mendez, Julia Roberts, I simply was like, I assumed they had been odder to me than I’m. So I used to be very stunned. However general, it is smart as a result of the vast majority of my closet does match inside that spectrum. And so I do assume I used to be already form of like understanding what seemed unhealthy and good. I already knew pastels look unhealthy on me as a result of I’m type of the identical as my mother and she or he informed me that about herself and it’s true and it’s true for me too. Yeah, I type of already knew that. And I’ve all the time had a factor with spring purchasing my entire life the place I simply really feel like nothing appears to be like good on me within the spring after which within the fall time, I really feel like the whole lot appears to be like good on me. And now I perceive it’s not simply due to sweaters versus tank tops, it’s due to the freaking colours, duh. So now I do know that.

Emma: I additionally simply liked that we bought mainly reverse and we’re sisters and I believe in some methods we do look alike, however in different methods, I get it like our pores and skin may be very completely different. If I attempted to put on Elsie’s Basis, it might not look proper. Now we have completely different pores and skin tones.

Elsie: We’ve all the time identified we now have completely different pores and skin sorts and like completely different undertones as a result of Emma has extra of an inclination to look pink. And I’ve extra of an inclination to look yellow, I believe in footage.

Emma: Yeah. You could have like our mother’s pores and skin and I’ve our dad’s pores and skin. 

Elsie: Yeah, however apart from that, I believe like structurally we glance the identical, however we now have fully completely different colours. So some individuals both assume we glance nothing alike or, individuals have truly like confused us earlier than like individuals have come as much as me and been like, “hello Emma.” So we do, I do know we do look alike, however she has blue eyes, and I’ve brown eyes. She’s all the time had gentle hair apart from that one time whenever you had been carrying your Elsie costume for like three months. 

Emma: Yeah, and I used to be like, this appears to be like horrible on me. 

Elsie: Anyway, I’ve had blonde hair earlier than too, form of, and it did look horrible, objectively unhealthy. Okay, I had a few colours in my report that they inspired me to put on that I wouldn’t have picked out earlier than. Like I’ve been shopping for extra issues on this form of plum coloration and I don’t know why I simply type of didn’t care about that coloration. However now that I search for it, I see it on a regular basis and it’s a straightforward coloration to search out and it really works for me. After which I’ve been shopping for browner, that’s probably not new or onerous. So yeah, I really feel like I’m positively gonna be capable of make my on a regular basis garments extra flattering. I don’t put on make-up day by day and I’m not going to. So this feels very useful. And I’d say life-changing. It was positively value it, I can’t keep in mind how a lot it price, nevertheless it was like a hundred-something. It was positively value it for me and I’d positively suggest it to a buddy. 

Emma: Yeah, and it is also simply each interplay with them, whether or not they had been asking for extra selfies or after they despatched my outcomes, they’re so candy. I felt stunning each time I open one among their emails cuz they’re identical to actually encouraging and so I positively do assume recommending it to a buddy. You don’t have to fret that it’s gonna be this destructive expertise cuz I simply can just about assure it gained’t be, it’ll positively go away them feeling stunning. Which they’re, even when they’ve completely different colours than they thought, which is what occurred to me. And I additionally in my report, so the 2 issues I actually wanna share is one, that they had like a bonus coloration for me, they had been like, we observed that this char truce, which it’s this like lime inexperienced jumpsuit I’ve, they’re like, that isn’t actually within the gentle summer season spectrum, nevertheless it appears to be like actually good on you. So simply so you already know, go for it with that one. And for those who ever have a wild card factor, and I preferred that they had been like, Hey, you don’t have to suit into this field each single time. Should you see one thing and it’s thrilling to you and you’re feeling good in it, perhaps it really works. It’s not like all people suits in a field on a regular basis, so I actually preferred that. After which the e-mail additionally had numerous ideas since you is likely to be considering, oh, are they telling me to love throw away the whole lot in my closet that doesn’t match the colours? That sounds costly, and it’s like, yeah, that will be costly doubtlessly. That sounds horrible. However no, they really had numerous ideas for what to do whenever you’re carrying a coloration that’s perhaps not so nice on your pores and skin and eyes, however you find it irresistible and also you need to put on it, or it’s a sweater that’s particular to you. It’s perhaps your mom gave it to you or it’s classic out of your grandma. You simply wanna put on it, it’s vital to you. The ideas are issues to think about carrying like a shawl in your neck or a scarf or a hat or earrings that perhaps are a extra flattering coloration for you. So issues round your face are gonna be a bit bit extra flattering. After which additionally, for those who simply love coloration nevertheless it doesn’t look nice on you, think about carrying it on the underside. So, skirts, pants, footwear, issues like that, tights, you already know, you might go boulder down there as a result of it’s proper by your face. There are much more ideas than that, I’m simply type of highlighting a pair. However I simply actually preferred that it didn’t really feel like, listed here are your colours and it’s important to match on this field now, and for those who put on something outdoors of it, it’s gonna look unhealthy, prefer it actually wasn’t like that in any respect. It truly felt very liberating. It felt extra like I used to be given course and I preferred that. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m glad you talked about that as a result of yeah, I did wanna say I do know a sure a part of our viewers proper now, they’re considering I don’t wanna do that as a result of I don’t wanna be informed what I can’t put on and that is a vital be aware, is that I nonetheless assume that black is one among my oddest colours and I nonetheless like and it’s on my don’t put on record, however I like don’t care. It’s nice. I believe that I simply notice that like that’s a coloration that I’m gonna put on after I’m carrying numerous make-up and prefer it’s extra of a dressing up, going out factor for me. And with my on a regular basis garments, my sweatpants, sweatsuit, no matter, like T-shirts.Yeah, t-shirts that’s a very good one. Pajamas, just like the stuff that you just all the time put on with no make-up and also you simply wanna really feel good, I most likely wouldn’t choose it up once more for these. It positively doesn’t imply that you could’t put on these colours. And likewise I’m like gonna get previous all nails ’trigger it’s Easter and that’s nice, I don’t care. You don’t need to care about each little factor.

Emma: No, it’s extra if you need, I don’t know. Should you simply know extra about what would possibly look good on you. So one factor I do sometimes is love thrifting. We’ve talked about thrifting many occasions on the present, and for me, thrifting is simply type of for enjoyable. I do attempt to solely purchase issues that I’m gonna put on or use. Loads of what I purchase currently is like issues for Oscar’s fairy backyard, like little ceramics or necklaces that I’m gonna take aside for my jewellery obsession, my necklace-making pastime. However I do additionally like to purchase sweaters and garments and issues. And now I simply really feel like I’ve much more course. Cuz typically you see one thing and also you’re like, oh, I believe this may match me, and I like the colour, however I don’t know if it appears to be like nice on me. And I really feel like now I’ve simply been given like a bit permission slip of you’ll be able to go away that behind for just like the deep fall women, cuz that’s not you. Examine-in on the blue lavender and you already know all that. And if you wish to put on one thing that’s not your coloration, go for it, it’s no massive deal. Listed below are some ideas. That’s type of the vibe of this entire factor. However I like being inventive within a field. I like being given permission to let go of one thing. In order that’s how I view this and for me, it feels liberating and type of enjoyable. And I additionally identical to, I don’t know, sending within the selfies and it’s nearly like doing a web based quiz in a approach. It’s simply enjoyable. Who doesn’t like to try this from time to time? 

Elsie: So have you ever achieved any purchasing or any cleansing out since you bought your outcomes again? 

Emma: I haven’t achieved a lot cleansing out as a result of I don’t really feel like I’ve tons of stuff that I’m like, oh, I positively gotta do away with it. I’ve one jumpsuit that’s like mainly type of a burnt orange. So you understand how massive Bud, they’re smalls, however they’re barely completely different sizes. So I used to be like, all proper, this one already was a bit bit greater on me, so I used to be like, I both have to get it tailor-made and now that I notice it’s actually not my coloration, I’m like, perhaps I’ll see if somebody who’s extra of a fall.

Elsie: I’ll commerce you. Really, I would have already got it. I’ll need to verify my closet, however I’ll commerce you cuz I already began making a pile for you and it has my sizzling pink jumpsuit in it. 

Emma: Yeah, we are able to commerce cuz this is sort of a terracotta pink, rusty pink. 

Elsie: Sure, I like the new pink jumpsuit. I find it irresistible. I find it irresistible. I find it irresistible. I find it irresistible. However after I put it on, I don’t find it irresistible now I do know why, I perceive, it is smart. It doesn’t make sense how one can have one thing that you just love that a lot and you then put it in your physique and also you’re like, however no. Yeah. I really feel like this was like a lacking piece for us that I’m so glad we now have now. So, yeah, I’m making you a bit pile, it’s not that massive cuz I actually didn’t have numerous pastels in my closet, however I had a couple of and I’ll deliver them with me after I come to go to subsequent week. And yeah, we are able to do some commerce I find it irresistible. Let’s do it. Okay, after which for the long run, I really feel like my largest change is that like I’m going to purchase like 100% of my on a regular basis fundamental garments, like my mother uniform-type stuff. I’m gonna purchase all of my colours as a result of I really feel I ought to due to college drop-off kind of conditions. I don’t put on make-up or care in any respect, like in any respect. I care lower than the least. So it is a great way for me to look my greatest contemplating these phrases. 

Emma: Yeah, identical. If I’m spending a very good amount of cash, so like, mainly if it’s not thrifted then I’m most likely gonna stick extra with my coloration palettes all the time sooner or later. The one exception is, I’m certain I’ll put on some type of pumpkin or halloweeny factor within the fall sometimes and I don’t care. I find it irresistible and I don’t care if it doesn’t look nice with my pores and skin, don’t matter to me, it’s Halloween. 

Elsie: Yeah, I assist that. I believe that that’s good. If I used to be informed I couldn’t put on pumpkin orange, somebody would have hell to pay. You’ll be able to’t take that away from me so that you’re dealing with it fairly nicely. 

Emma: I’m gonna want a refund as a result of I like pumpkin

Elsie: Yeah, now we’re transferring on to a piece the place we’re gonna every do three recommendations on discovering your model, feeling good, and Yeah, if we haven’t made this clear sufficient already, it’s coming from the angle of anybody can do that and everybody ought to really feel good of their garments. It’s not like a style, style perspective as a result of we don’t have that. However I do love style. I’ve an appreciation for it. I wouldn’t think about myself a style particular person, although. 

Emma: I believe whether it is like meals, all people eats and possibly all people has to prepare dinner some, even for those who hate cooking you most likely need to do one thing. So it’s form of the like, nicely what do you prepare dinner day by day? Like what’s your on a regular basis cooking versus what for those who went to a Michelin star restaurant, I’m certain that you might nonetheless admire that meals and it doesn’t imply that it’s important to prepare dinner it in your personal residence as a result of frankly, you don’t have the abilities. I don’t and it’s okay to have all these completely different ranges. I truly assume that’s actually enjoyable and thrilling and that’s how I view style. I like style. It’s so cool. Anyway, completely different ranges of style are superior, that’s all I used to be attempting to say. 

Elsie: So listed here are our ideas. My first one is to take a look at the clothes, make-up, and kinds that you just nonetheless love out of your outdated photographs. Take a look at photographs from your self, like via the years, all of your completely different ages and phases, and discover the issues that also really feel traditional to you as a result of likelihood is these are issues that actually work nicely for you. And likewise I simply assume one thing from an image of me 10 years in the past that I’d nonetheless put on now, meaning one thing. Have you learnt what I imply? Meaning one thing about like me and one thing concerning the clothes and the model, it might probably’t simply be like a development. It’s prefer it’s inconceivable, it’s nice. 

Emma: My first tip is to have high-quality fundamentals that fit your needs nicely and that you’ll put on loads. So regardless of your price range, it doesn’t matter. Should you’re like, my price range for denims is $50 or $300, no matter means top quality to you, simply one thing that’s gonna final. And to me, a very powerful factor is that it suits you nicely. And getting issues tailor-made is definitely loads cheaper than I assumed. I believe for those who had agreed to get your entire closet achieved, that will clearly be fairly dear. However to get a couple of fundamentals to only fit your needs completely normally actually isn’t as a lot as you would possibly assume for those who’ve by no means achieved it. So discover somebody in your space who does tailoring, it’s not one thing that solely exists in New York Metropolis. I swear you’ll find somebody and get it to suit your physique. You’re gonna really feel actually good in it.

Elsie: it’s extraordinarily value it. One time I did a complete bag of stuff and it was like a hundred-something. It’s not unaffordable and there are such a lot of items that they simply want a bit tweak for it to be one thing you’d actually put on. So whenever you’re doing all of your clear out, you’ll be able to have the pile the place it’s like straight to the alterations after which you’ll be able to have the donate and the preserve in all of that too. I believe it’s positively value it for certain. Okay, my subsequent tip is when you’ve got clothes that you just put on by default that makes you are feeling unhealthy about your self, let it go. Donate it, put it in a bag, and get it out of your home. I’ve had this many occasions in my life, it’s like getting right into a behavior of identical to whenever you dress quick, you simply put on the identical three issues or no matter. And it may not even be belongings you like, however for those who discover that there’s one thing that whenever you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna run into individuals or whenever you’re carrying it, you don’t wanna be in photographs, then that’s a factor that I’d encourage changing and completely deleting out of your wardrobe. As a result of for those who don’t need to, why would you wanna have one thing that made you are feeling unhealthy? 

Emma: Yep, and my subsequent tip is definitely type of alongside these strains, and I don’t know if it’s a tip a lot as a pep discuss, however I simply wanna say, you might be attractive. Precisely the best way you might be, precisely the scale you might be, precisely the age you might be. So your wardrobe, your garments, and your make-up, for those who put on make-up, ought to replicate how attractive you might be. So that you don’t have to shrink back from garments cuz you assume, oh, if I used to be a special measurement or if I used to be taller, I’d put on that. Or loads that I hear now’s buddies will probably be like, I’m too outdated to put on X, Y, Z, which we’re like in our late thirties or early forties, you’re not,

Elsie: I do know they don’t even know the way outdated is but. 

Emma: Yeah, you don’t even know. And I don’t know, I look again now at like early twenties Emma and I want that she would’ve identical to embraced herself extra as a result of I used to be so cute and I attempt to consider that. I’m like, Hey, sixties, Emma is gonna be saying that about you proper now. So embrace it, you might be cute, you might be sizzling, and you might be attractive. Put on stuff that makes you are feeling that approach as a result of it’s true. 

Elsie: Good pep discuss, Emma. That was very nice. My subsequent one is, so I’ve a bit temper board for the whole lot in my entire life together with clothes. I believe it actually helps. When you have bother wandering out of your model, like that’s my downside is that if I simply see one thing that’s cute, otherwise you see one thing that appears cute on another person, I don’t know. I’ve an issue, identical to getting drawn to my private deterrent is enjoyable, vibrant clothes and I’ll severely put on it a couple of times. Like I simply don’t put on clothes like that again and again, over the best way I do different issues. So I’ve to maintain myself targeted away from it. And it’s not like I can’t ever put on it, however I’m attempting to not, positively attempting not to spend so much on clothes like that anymore. Anyway, so I’ve my little temper board and it’s identical to footage of outfits I like, like individuals from Pinterest, just a bit collage and preserve it in your cellphone and remind your self whenever you’re unsure about a purchase order or no matter. I believe it’s a great way to be like, oh yeah, that is how I’m attempting to decorate, that is how I need to gown.

Emma: Yep, I like that. It’s like a cheat sheet. Okay. And my third tip is for those who love one thing, purchase it in a couple of colours that be just right for you. However for those who love one thing, that is one thing that we stole from our grandma and I type of used to assume she was type of dorky for doing this, and now I one hundred percent do it and I get it and she or he was proper. 

Elsie: I by no means thought that, I all the time thought she was cool. Her closet I’m gonna describe them. One coloured, type of like a gown that Ms. Frizzle wears. One coloured cotton shirt gown has a coloration and midline sleeves and it goes down under the knee and it has an identical belt. And he or she had that gown in like the entire rainbow. After which she had footwear, like pumps in the entire rainbow to match them. And I all the time thought it was the best factor about our grandma, it was her instructor uniform. Yeah, she was a instructor. And Emma is rather like her.

Emma: However jumpsuits. That’s just like the model. So yeah, for those who love one thing, for those who’re like, wow, this sweater suits me very well, or, oh, I all the time, you already know, put on this pair of denims, they match me nicely. Nicely, if they’ve it in one other wash perhaps get that. Additionally, when one thing wears out, like a fantastic pair of footwear and you may’t resell them, or a fantastic pair of denims, they’ve gotten too many holes, no matter, don’t really feel like it’s important to change it up for those who don’t need to. You’ll be able to actually simply exchange it with the identical factor once more, no disgrace in that. So for those who discover one thing that’s working for you and also you find it irresistible, embrace it. 

Elsie: That’s true. I believe that that’s actually good recommendation, Em. So many garments do are available in many alternative colours too, which is good. 

Emma: Yeah, simply slight variations and it’s not even a lot. I accomplish that a lot laundry having a toddler and I solely have one child. I don’t even know what individuals are doing with 2, 3, or 4 children. 

Elsie: You don’t wanna know the way a lot completely different it’s with two children. 

Emma: So typically it’s simply having barely completely different colours. You additionally might simply purchase the very same coloration, simply so you could have a couple of, so that you don’t really feel like it’s important to do laundry day by day as a result of I get that too. Go for it, do what it is advisable to do. 

Elsie: I find it irresistible. I hope this episode was useful. We actually, actually really feel captivated with this topic, style is for everybody. And for those who learn Curated Closet, for those who do the workbook, for those who do the Shade seek the advice of, ship us your expertise and your outcomes as a result of we simply wanna hear about it. It’s enjoyable for us and we’re . So thanks a lot for listening, and I suppose I’m simply going to go the baton now to Nova for our well-known section, A Joke and a Truth with Nova. All proper, I’ve Nova right here, Nova this week. Do you could have a joke for us or a truth?

Nova: A truth. 

Elsie: Okay. What’s the very fact? 

Nova: Do you know that like within the solar, greater than 1,000,000 Earths might slot in it? 

Elsie: Actually? Inside the solar, greater than 1,000,000? That feels like loads. Superior truth. Thanks.