Episode 179: All Issues Self Care

This week, we’re sharing our self-care routines, together with psychological well being, bodily well being, skincare stuff, and new issues we need to strive. 

We’re additionally being form of random, and I’m sharing all my favourite glowing seltzer waters and Emma’s sharing her salt float expertise!

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Present Notes:

Learn Emma’s weblog submit about her expertise with vascular laser remedy.

Laser therapies we’ve got tried:

  • Laser hair elimination
  • Vascular Laser Remedy
  • Microneedling with PRP

Motion + methods we cut back stress:

Emma – group health at her native YMCA, yoga, and strolling outdoors

Elsie – strolling and a yoga class from theworkoutwitch.com

Psychological well being:

Remedy, being artistic, and having pals

One thing new you’ve tried not too long ago:

Emma – challenges

Elsie – specializing in shifting

One thing you need to strive within the close to future: 

Elsie – swimming on daily basis and a gaggle health class

Responsible pleasure treasure: 

Elsie – All of the BEST seltzer water drinks:

Emma – jewellery making:

Take a look at Emma’s weblog submit about shrinky dinks.

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Episode 179 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast. This week we’re sharing our self-care routines, together with psychological well being, bodily well being, skincare stuff, and the brand new issues we need to strive. We’re additionally being form of random and I’m sharing my favourite glowing seltzer waters, and Emma is sharing her horrific salt float expertise. Okay, let’s lead with the salt float. Within the define it says, Emma’s salt float ick. Inform us all the things, Emma, begin from the start as a result of I keep in mind you have been excited to do this.

Emma: Yeah, I used to be and I’ve no regrets about attempting it as a result of it’s enjoyable to strive new issues. So if you happen to’ve by no means heard of a salt float earlier than, as a result of I’m form of new to listening to about it, I had by no means heard about it until my mother-in-law instructed me she does them typically with pals. She’s executed it together with her husband, my father-in-law too. So she instructed me about it. I had by no means actually heard of it, however primarily it’s like a sensory deprivation kind tank, that’s the kind of factor. The one I went to anyhow is that this large form of industrial-looking tank and inside there’s like sufficient water that it might perhaps come as much as my knees. I’m 5’4″, however, and there’s a ton, I don’t know the way a lot, however a ton of like epson salt in it or salt, I feel it’s epson salt, however there’s salt. As a result of the concept is you possibly can float in it and also you don’t should strive all of it. It’s not like a swimming pool is fairly simple to drift in. However that is like, no, really, you couldn’t actually sink your self until you’re like, flailing round. It makes you weightless. 

Elsie: What did it really feel like once you first stepped in? 

Emma: To me, it felt very slimy as a result of the water may be very thick as a result of it has a lot salt in it, so I didn’t like that. My mother-in-law instructed me about this, and only for the file, she’s really actually superior at self-care. The primary time I ever bought a therapeutic massage was as a result of my mother-in-law purchased it for me as a birthday present, I feel. And this was additionally a birthday present for my mother-in-law. She was like, would you want a therapeutic massage or did you wanna strive the salt float? As a result of we had talked about it beforehand and I used to be like, oh, I wanna strive the salt float. So she bought me a present certificates and it was very candy, despite the fact that I didn’t find yourself liking it, it was nonetheless actually, actually candy. Anyway, so she’s actually nice at self-care and so I assumed, oh, this sounds fascinating. And the one she purchased me, had slightly little bit of sauna time. I like a sauna. So I used to be simply hanging out within the sauna, chilling out, after which I went to go do the salt float it’s a factor that numerous individuals take pleasure in, however I disliked it a lot. I left after like 10 minutes. I had like an hour that I may float in there for, however I left after about 10 minutes, and on the place I went, there have been two sorts of salt floats. There’s one the place it’s extra of like an open house as a result of some individuals really feel claustrophobic, within the tank. I’ve by no means felt claustrophobic earlier than, so I don’t suppose that’s a factor for me, numerous individuals have that they don’t prefer to be in enclosed areas. I don’t really feel like I’ve that. I’m extra of a concern of heights individual, so I used to be like, I feel I’ll be fantastic within the tank and it didn’t hassle me to be within the tank. It’s pitch darkish. So that you get in there and there’s like slightly mild and it turns off inside like 30 seconds or a minute and there’s music taking part in initially, after which it slowly fades out after which it’ll slowly fade again in in order that you already know when your time’s up since you really, you possibly can’t take your cellphone in there and the concept is that you simply fully are within the darkness. You’re floating, you possibly can simply fully calm down. And lots of people adore it. I simply thought it felt slimy and I used to be form of attempting to drift, however you already know, you actually don’t must strive. However I simply didn’t prefer it, so I left her like 10 minutes, and the gal on the entrance desk who had helped me like, you already know, prepare and go within the room. And he or she instructed me like all of the issues, she was like, ah, so it wasn’t for you? And I used to be like, no, it wasn’t, I didn’t prefer it. I used to be so embarrassed, however I used to be like, I’m simply not gonna keep simply because I really feel embarrassed to go away, however I used to be like, I simply thought that is it for me. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so I had agreed with Emma that I’d do it additionally, and there’s like a few locations which have it the place I dwell. I used to be which means to do it and we have been gonna discuss it on the podcast and as quickly as she texted me and instructed me she hated it, I used to be like so relieved that I didn’t should, I don’t suppose I spotted I like, simply didn’t need to. I used to be placing it off as a result of I don’t know, I simply didn’t just like the sound of it. So I’m not stunned that, and I’ve heard different individuals who hated it, however I’ve additionally heard individuals who actually prefer it. So I suppose it’s in all probability simply a kind of extremely private issues like cilantro. 

Emma: Yeah, like cilantro is like, I do know individuals who hate massages. They’re like, I simply can’t calm down, I don’t need somebody touching me. I don’t like being bare or principally bare. And I get that. However I like a therapeutic massage personally too, so it’s like, you already know, individuals like various things. You gotta discover what’s for you. And this was not for me.

Elsie: Effectively, I feel it’s humorous although, and I feel it’s form of cool that you simply similar to bought up and left, when you knew that it was zero.

Emma: I feel youthful, Emma wouldn’t have executed that as a result of I used to be like, I’m gonna should stroll previous the entrance desk girl. And I additionally felt so unhealthy. I used to be like, oh, I’m gonna have to inform my mother-in-law ’trigger she’s gonna ask me the way it went. And I don’t need her to really feel like I didn’t like her present, simply all this stuff. After which I used to be like, Hey, you possibly can simply go away and it’s okay, and that’s what I did.

Elsie: No, I feel stuff like that it’s fascinating to try to that’s a part of the enjoyable is like realizing that you simply may not prefer it, it’s polarizing. So Cool. 

Emma: Yeah. I’m joyful to have tried it cuz it was undoubtedly an expertise and like I mentioned, it’s like this industrial tank. I don’t know, however I really feel like I may use that in a narrative sometime. It’s undoubtedly a factor. I imply, it’s form of in Stranger Issues, that’s how she goes the wrong way up like floating within the salt water. 

Elsie: Did you ever watch the TV present referred to as The Leftovers as a result of there’s a extremely bizarre half the place there in little tanks like that in that present, it’s creepy. Yeah, for certain, however I beloved that present. I used to be like one of many solely individuals, I like beloved it. 

Emma: I haven’t seen it, however I’ve seen the posters for it and stuff and it regarded fascinating. Not essentially non secular, however one thing like that.

Elsie: Okay, so on this episode we’re gonna speak all about self-care stuff. A number of the stuff we’re gonna undergo is lasers, facials, motion, methods to cut back stress remedy, psychological well being stuff, one thing we’ve tried, one thing we wanna strive. So let’s begin with the lasers and facials. So final time we talked about something like this, I keep in mind you shared that you simply have been doing laser hair elimination and it was such as you simply began and I began doing it proper after you, so we are able to each discuss it. It’s such a journey. 

Emma: In case you instructed me that you simply have been doing it, I suppose I forgot trigger I’m like, oh, you’re doing it. Cool. 

Elsie: Yeah, I began a extremely very long time in the past. Okay, so laser hair elimination, I’ll attempt to say it as overtly as I can, however with out saying something that’s gross. I feel it’s slightly little bit of a private factor.

Emma: Yeah. Don’t wanna flip individuals off.

Elsie: Skip by way of this half if you happen to like I don’t wanna hear something about it in any respect. However my husband doesn’t wanna hear something about it in any respect, like something, so I simply don’t, which is ok. I’ve instructed numerous my pals about it as a result of I feel it’s the kind of factor that if you happen to’re even contemplating doing it, you wanna hear from another person who’s executed it. Like how unhealthy is it? Is it a giant deal? And I’ve seen numerous individuals on-line say that laser hair elimination doesn’t harm and I feel it hurts lots. So I feel it’s very fascinating how completely different individuals understand ache and perhaps it’s completely different lasers. I don’t know. I don’t know, however inform us about your expertise. 

Emma: I simply did my bikini space. What areas are you doing? 

Elsie: Yeah, so I did the bikini after which I did the armpits to this point after which as soon as I’ve form of been into it, I spotted I remorse not doing the legs and I’m gonna return for the legs. So final time I requested which one’s worse and he or she mentioned, if you are able to do the bikini, you are able to do something, so simply do the legs. 

Emma: That may be my guess too, if you are able to do the bikini space, in all probability you might do the rest. My gal additionally instructed me, as a result of I’m additionally contemplating legs, however I don’t suppose I’m gonna do it. However she mentioned that decrease legs are literally no large deal in any respect, it’s extra higher legs and thighs. They could be a little extra delicate. However once more, all people’s completely different. I don’t agree with this web factor that laser hair elimination doesn’t harm in any respect. Don’t agree. So the place I went to, affords a numbing cream which you can buy and check out. I didn’t get that once I began laser hair elimination, I used to be nonetheless breastfeeding. I used to be like form of on the center to the tail finish of breastfeeding and you’ll’t use it if you happen to’re breastfeeding. So I simply didn’t have the choice however if you happen to aren’t breastfeeding, you might strive that and I in all probability would’ve executed it if I’d had the choice, however my gal additionally instructed me, she was like, simply take ibuprofen like half-hour earlier than you come right here, and that can assist too. It simply form of takes the sting off. In order that’s what I often do. I feel it hurts, I feel it seems like somebody’s snapping at you with a rubber band. That’s what it feels prefer to me. So it’s not the best ache ever. 

Elsie: To me, it’s like stabbing with needles slightly bit like stabbing, stabbing, stabbing.

Emma: Yeah, I assumed a tattoo was worse, personally, however I even have tattoos on my forearms, which is a really completely different space than my bikini space, so, I don’t know. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’ll say I feel it’s fairly unhealthy, however the professionals of it are, it’s actually quick. It’s lower than 10 minutes to do all the things I do each time. So it’s very quick. I hate it, nevertheless it’s prefer it’s executed earlier than you’ve even began it, it’s very fast. And the opposite factor that’s cool is true after you get it, the hair in that space doesn’t develop for a extremely very long time, so it’s good. It’s such as you get this on the spot satisfaction. They are saying you must go 5 or 6 instances to get it fully gone. However I simply at all times take pleasure in it proper after I am going that it’s like the entire month nearly, it’s like nothing, which is sweet. It’s like one much less factor to consider. So yeah, I’d suggest it. I feel it’s undoubtedly price it. The place I went to was not very costly. I bought a greater value by paying the entire thing upfront. 

Emma: Identical. Yep, they have been like, there’s a reduction if you happen to pay in any respect. And I used to be like, signal me up. I like this low cost. 

Elsie: Yeah. It’s not nice, however everybody who has had waxing says that the laser will not be as unhealthy, in order that’s good.

Emma: Sure, and waxing simply doesn’t final as lengthy. I’ve solely executed waxing as soon as, however I assumed it was slightly bit worse than laser and it doesn’t final as lengthy. Laser, it lasts considerably indefinitely. You possibly can develop extra hair once you’re older, our our bodies change over time, like over years and years, however typically, no. So I feel it’s very price it. I’d undoubtedly suggest it to anybody contemplating, that’s my expertise. Clearly, do no matter you need along with your physique, however I additionally wanna put it on the market for anybody contemplating it doesn’t work on blonde hair. And it could not work on mild purple hair both. You must have darkish hair. I overlook why they may clarify it to you, a technician greater than me. But it surely has one thing to do with the basis of the hair the laser can’t do blonde hair.

Elsie: You’ve some distinction in order that the laser can see. Okay. Let’s discuss different sorts of lasers and different sorts of facials. Any form of med spa stuff that you simply’ve tried?

Emma: Yeah. So I’ve a submit about my vascular laser expertise, so we’ll hyperlink that within the present notes if you happen to wanna examine it extra. 

Elsie: Clarify what that’s. 

Emma: Yeah, mainly I realized about it from my laser hair elimination technician, and every time I used to be pregnant, I bought this sort of damaged blood vessels on my face. Not tons, however one was like proper in the course of my brow and I overlook the place the opposite ones have been. I had one proper beneath my collarbone. A few different locations, and particularly the one proper in the course of my brow simply actually bothered me it made me really feel like I needed to put on make-up or it was simply extraordinarily distinguished. Being pregnant is so unusual it simply does all types of unusual issues to your physique and I’m so grateful for the expertise, however I didn’t love this damaged blood vessel and I realized that I may do away with it with a vascular laser. So all they do is, it’s only one little zap and so they can take away it to allow them to do away with damaged blood vessels and likewise cherry moles and some different little issues. It received’t take away all the things. In case you’re like, I’ve freckles, I don’t suppose it really works for that. However you already know, little issues like that. And I’ve really gone now a few instances I bought issues executed after I used to be executed being pregnant, so I may do away with that damaged blood vessels from that have. And I’ve bought a number of extra like cherry molds executed since then which can be simply in locations the place it’s like, on my boob, however in a spot the place you see it once I’m carrying a swimsuit and I used to be like, I simply don’t love that that is such a giant cherry mole, I’d prefer to get it eliminated. It’s my physique, my alternative. In order that’s one thing that I’d and have executed and it’s good. And in addition simply, I do know that is all about self-care and it’s slightly bit like visible stuff, however I form of wanna put this on the market too. The place I went for the vascular laser was a dermatologist and I additionally suppose it’s a extremely good concept to get checked for pores and skin most cancers. Perhaps not yearly, it is dependent upon your kind of pores and skin and the way a lot you’re within the solar, however it’s best to do it if you happen to’ve by no means executed it and also you’re an grownup listening, it’s best to do it after which see what they suggest. Like how typically so that you can are available since you simply by no means know. Like we had a grandma who had some pores and skin most cancers, and if you happen to catch issues like that early on, a number of instances they’ll take away it and also you received’t have large points. There’s typically a spot in your again and you’ll’t see it, and also you don’t at all times do an ideal job getting sunscreen there as a result of you possibly can’t attain it. It’s simply good to get issues checked out, so do this. Make your companions do it. It’s good to do. 

Elsie: Yeah, completely. I do know we’ve each tried micro-needling. I’ve executed micro-needling with P R P, which I feel can be referred to as the Vampire Facial, it’s actually gross trying. I assumed it was fairly enjoyable, I favored it. 

Emma: What does it do? Inform individuals, why is it referred to as Vampire Facial? 

Elsie: So to begin with, you must get your blood drawn after which they spin the blood in order that it’s solely like a part of it, some form of like platelets or one thing. I really suppose it’s best to go on a Med Spas web site and examine this and don’t simply go by my description of it as a result of I don’t know what I’m speaking about. However then they take that liquid and so everytime you get a micro-needling, there must be some form of gel or one thing in your face to microneedle into the pores and skin. In order that they use that as a substitute, they microneedle that into your pores and skin and it’s purported to be like a giant collagen booster, that’s why individuals do it. I feel it was just like the Kardashians did it one time or one thing. So I feel that’s why individuals name it the vampire facial. I don’t know the way it bought the nickname. Yeah, I attempted that a number of instances and I assumed it was fairly good. I additionally tried, there’s this laser referred to as BBL that you are able to do for like age spots and I’ve tons of solar harm. So I bought it on my arms, I bought it on my chest, I bought it on my face and it’s nice. I’d undoubtedly do it once more. It’s simply good to know, just like the factor you have been saying with the little vein, I’ve a kind of, like within the nook of my nostril, I’m gonna go do this now. It’s like some belongings you don’t even understand it’s potential after which it’s like only one appointment, one little time of getting zapped by a laser, no large deal. It’s nice. I feel that’s one of many good issues about residing these days. There are simply so many fascinating issues that folks can do with lasers that I don’t suppose in all probability existed even 20 years in the past. 

Emma: Yeah, in all probability not. You in all probability used to, if you happen to ever bought a nasty tattoo, your solely possibility was to cowl it up as a substitute now they’ll laser it off if you need. 

Elsie: Okay, so let’s discuss motion and methods to cut back stress. Something that helps you are feeling such as you’re having a more healthy way of life. 

Emma: Yeah. I consider this lots as self-care and psychological well being, however clearly, it’s about health too, so longevity stuff. However I am going to group health, I am going to Physique Pump, which is on the Y M C A, there’s one close by the place I dwell. It’s like a 10-minute drive. 

Elsie: These are so enjoyable. I like these lessons. They like music. 

Emma: Sure and I’m the individual within the class who is consistently slightly bit behind. I’m like, do I not have rhythm? What’s flawed with me? And I’ve additionally tried step aerobics earlier than, I’ve by no means tried Zumba, however I really feel like it might be much like step aerobics, I couldn’t sustain. I like the concept of getting cardio and I like group health they only let you know what to do and also you simply do it. However I simply don’t have any rhythm, I suppose. I don’t know what’s flawed with me. I by no means wanna line dance as a result of I’m gonna be the one that can not do it, who’s similar to continually slightly behind. However anyway, I do love group health, and what I like about my class is there are many completely different ages and it’s numerous completely different physique sorts. It feels very inclusive. It seems like that is about energy coaching for you. So no matter which means for you and your stage and simply with the ability to, for me it’s like choosing up my toddler on a regular basis and never feeling like that’s too arduous. So, I like that. After which I’m additionally, whereas I used to be pregnant, I did a number of yoga and I nonetheless do it on occasion now, however I undoubtedly was like in my yoga part whereas I used to be pregnant. And that was actually enjoyable and stress-free and undoubtedly difficult at instances too as a result of your stability modifications in that point. So I feel that’s an ideal factor to do and I simply did a number of that off YouTube. After which I’m a giant take walks outdoors individual too, I simply love strolling, and I get a number of concepts. I de-stress. I do my gratitude apply. So I take into consideration issues I’m grateful for and I feel simply sunshine makes such a giant distinction. And there are specific instances of the 12 months the place there’s simply not as a lot of it and it’s freezing and I don’t wanna stroll outdoors and so typically I don’t if it’s pouring rain all week, then yeah, I don’t get to that week and I can inform a distinction. So, I make a giant effort to do this anytime I can, after which within the hotter months it’s at all times simpler. Recent air, sunshine, being outdoors, watching all of your neighbor’s homes and being like, adore it, adore it. Don’t like that one. It’s enjoyable. Slack it round, judging. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m so excited to maneuver to Missouri only for the strolling, as a result of the home peeping on this particular neighborhood is so good. However yeah, I’ve been doing walks this 12 months and I feel the place I dwell at the moment, I feel my stroll is slightly bit boring, I’m not gonna lie. The homes aren’t previous, I like previous homes. 

Emma: Yeah, I’ve walked in your neighborhood. It’s okay, it’s slightly boring. 

Elsie: Yeah, I’ve been doing the factor, attempting to be within the solar for half-hour a day is sort of a factor that each therapist recommends, each self-help guide, similar to each one who is aware of something at all times says it’s best to attempt to get slightly little bit of sunshine on daily basis. In order that’s the explanation that I’ve been doing that. And I’ve a giant audiobook way of life, so it offers me time to do this, which I like. The opposite factor I’m doing not too long ago is a form of yoga class. So the web site is named The Exercise Witch and it’s purported to be a trauma-releasing, like targeted yoga factor. So I’m doing that as a result of I like greater than something on this planet, I need to get my previous trauma. In case you imagine that trauma could be saved in your physique, which I feel most individuals do, it’s like, how do you get it out although? If anybody is aware of something, I don’t know, please ship it to me. I’m like obsessive about the topic, however that is the very first thing that I’ve tried that I felt like did something. It’s been good to this point and I feel it’s fascinating. It’s an fascinating factor to strive. I additionally tried reiki therapeutic and for me, I’d undoubtedly do it once more with a special practitioner, nevertheless it was like a zero out of 10 for me. I didn’t get what I wished out of the expertise.

Emma: Have you ever tried acupuncture or been to a chiropractor earlier than? I’ve really by no means executed both of these, and I really feel such as you want extra of a purpose or a aim, it’s not similar to a therapeutic massage. So I don’t really feel like that’s come up for me but.

Elsie: I’ve been to a chiropractor however I feel I’m extra all for attempting acupuncture sooner or later. I’d like to strive that, undoubtedly. Okay, so let’s discuss remedy and something within the psychological well being class, even when it’s random, even when it’s small. Similar to something you do that you simply really feel has had a constructive impact in your psychological well being. So for me, like going into common remedy, it’s one thing I began I feel like three or 4 years in the past, slightly bit earlier than the pandemic began. It’s simply one thing that I wished to do as a result of a few of my pals do it ongoing, common remedy eternally, it’s not targeted on something, it’s only a apply that you simply do constantly. So I turned all for that trigger I used to be simply curious what sort of a distinction it might make and it’s made a giant distinction for me. I’ve had some particular struggles pop up over the previous three years that I wanted to work by way of. After which a number of the time we go into issues which can be extra like ongoing issues from childhood. Deep-set fears, like issues that I simply need and must work on, however don’t really feel like I’ve the instruments by myself. Yeah, I’d say the primary smartest thing I’ve ever executed for myself is begin going to remedy each two weeks for no purpose aside from it’s like what I do now. 

Emma: Yep. Identical, I am going to remedy at the moment I am going as soon as a month, and each time I’m there I’d prefer to guide my subsequent one. And yeah, form of the identical, I don’t really feel like I’ll essentially go my complete life, however I additionally don’t really feel like, oh, that will be unhealthy if I did that. I feel that having time, making appointments, and likewise it prices a sure sum of money, are components. I’ve heard pals earlier than say, effectively, I don’t wanna go to remedy ongoing as a result of I’ll really feel this strain to have one thing flawed on a regular basis. I solely will go to remedy if there’s one thing flawed, so I’ll begin making issues an even bigger deal than they are surely or one thing like that. That hasn’t been my expertise. I really feel prefer it’s an ideal place if there’s something flawed, quote-unquote, then you possibly can clearly discuss it and it’s a protected house the place they’re not gonna share something. My city’s form of a small city, so it’s good to simply have a spot the place you possibly can discuss issues actually overtly. So I do recognize that, however I typically share issues that I’m actually joyful about. It makes me really feel like I’ve a spot the place, you already know, you by no means need to really feel such as you’re bragging or being unrelatable to different individuals. And naturally, I do have shut pals and I share constructive issues with individuals. However I like having a spot the place I can go in and I may say one thing a few cash determine. I may say one thing about, simply how I’m like actually pleased with one thing and I don’t have to fret about like I’m bragging. I’m like, that is my therapist. I may simply say, I’m actually joyful about this factor. I do that factor the place typically I replay conversations. I’m like, right here’s this little second I had with my pal or my sister, or my accomplice, no matter. I really feel like once I do this by myself, typically I can form of dig my heels in on if I assumed I used to be proper. They didn’t deal with it proper or no matter. I really feel prefer it’s good to have one other individual with whom you possibly can replay a dialog and so long as you’re trustworthy, they’ll form of make it easier to see the place perhaps you might have dealt with that slightly in another way. Perhaps you might change your communication fashion slightly bit or perhaps narrowly have a look at this factor, and you might have a look at it in a broader manner and it might change issues. I feel my therapist helps me with that lots, and I notice like, oh yeah, I used to be flawed. Or similar to, oh, that’s just one manner of it. There are a bunch of different methods I may have a look at it too. And I discover that basically useful too. So yeah, I don’t know. I simply kinda wished to place that on the market if anybody’s like, effectively, there’s nothing flawed, so I don’t wanna go to remedy. And it’s like, Hey if you happen to don’t wanna do the appointment, or like the cash doesn’t suit your funds, I get that.

However I don’t suppose one thing must be flawed so as so that you can go, I feel you possibly can simply attempt to change into a greater individual. And it’s one instrument on the market. 

Elsie: I strongly agree. I’ve by no means had an expertise the place I felt like I used to be making up issues or making issues worse than they already have been, simply because I wanted one thing to speak about. It’s actually only a protected house the place I can admit issues that I wouldn’t admit in different conditions, which is sweet to have. It’s essential I feel, to have, regardless of how nice your folks are, your accomplice, there’s gonna be some issues that you simply don’t discuss. There’s at all times gonna be one thing, one thing that’s simply not comfy or no matter, I feel it’s great. I feel if you happen to haven’t tried it, don’t decide it. I’m planning to let my children begin quickly and be in ongoing remedy. I would like them to expertise it, for it to simply be regular. That’s my aim is that remedy is simply so regular that it’s boring and never that it’s like some large factor that implies that there’s like a giant drawback or one thing in any strategy to be ashamed of, which is extra like, I feel a factor from the previous that’s hopefully going away. 

Emma: Yeah. I feel making issues regular is sweet. I feel additionally going again to motion, encouraging your child, letting them see that motion’s part of your life and that health is enjoyable and it doesn’t should be a chore and it doesn’t should be solely fitness center individuals, quote unquote fitness center individuals do this. It’s like, no, that is regular. And you discover one thing you want. And I feel normalizing that’s actually good and in the identical manner, I feel normalizing remedy sounds actually good too. After which it’s like they’ll work out the way it suits of their life once they’re older and it could possibly be a number of various things and that’s nice.

Elsie: Okay. I’ve another factor that’s within the what helps within the psychological well being class. So for me, one among my greatest targets for myself, but additionally simply as a mother or father, is that I need to at all times be studying and I don’t at all times be making issues. So I feel making extra time in my life for each of these issues since I’ve change into an avid reader that has actually modified my life. And I feel pottery has actually modified my life as a result of simply having issues that aren’t work-related, I achieve this many artistic issues for our work, however that’s not the identical factor as making stuff only for enjoyable, and actually, they’re very completely different. The stakes are completely different, the strain’s completely different. The quantity that I can calm down and revel in may be very in another way. So I feel simply making more room for issues I take pleasure in, as small as that may sound, it’s a factor that was a lacking puzzle piece for a very long time and now it’s change into an important psychological well being savior for me.

Emma: Yep. I couldn’t agree extra. That’s why I’ve my bizarre jewelry-making pastime. 

Elsie: Sure. I like that. In case you guys comply with Emma’s Instagram, she posts new necklaces that she’s making on a regular basis it’s so cute and it makes me so joyful and it makes me wanna make one thing. So, yeah, I feel if you happen to’re not making time for your self, particularly if you happen to’re a mother with younger children as a result of that’s the place we’ve been, simply strive it. Simply find time for one factor that’s only for you, simply begin.

Emma: The one different factor I wished so as to add on this part is having pals, having shut pals, and I’ll simply put this on the market. There have been a few years of my life the place mainly Elsie and Trey have been my solely pals. I used to be similar to constructing my enterprise and simply trying again, I’m like, I didn’t actually have pals. I solely had my household, which is nice, and I’m grateful I had that. However now I’m in a part of my life, particularly the final three to 5 years the place I’ve a extremely nice group of pals. They’re principally on this guide membership that I am going to, and I’m simply actually grateful for it. And I additionally notice I feel for a very long time I didn’t notice that I used to be form of asking an excessive amount of of these relationships, of my friendship with you, Elsie, and likewise my relationship with my husband. You possibly can’t actually anticipate your accomplice to be all the things for you. That’s simply a lot. And so now I really feel like I’ve this group of pals that could be a supply of consolation and love, and so they problem me on issues. They make me take into consideration issues in another way. We don’t all imagine precisely the identical manner or have the very same political beliefs, and I really actually like that. Yeah, we learn books collectively which can be form of within the private improvement class, but additionally principally we’re simply there for one another. And when somebody’s going by way of one thing arduous, they’ll discuss it. And I’m simply actually grateful to have friendships. And I feel once you’re an grownup, it may be form of difficult to make. pals however I feel having this group has made me much more assured in reaching out to different individuals who aren’t even on this guide membership, simply to be like, I wanna have a pal and that implies that if I must guide one thing with you want three weeks out, I suppose I used to really feel like, oh, that’s form of dorky, I’m attempting too arduous and individuals are gonna suppose I’m form of dorky. And the reality is, I’m form of dorky and I don’t care. I want to see you and I’ll attempt to guide a time with you, and it could possibly be a month from now and it may be a play date or it could possibly be no matter, and I’ll in all probability make you a necklace and that’s who I’m. And I’m fantastic with it as a result of if you happen to resolve that I’m too dorky for you, I’ve this pal group I can fall again on. 

Elsie: Yeah. I don’t suppose anybody’s ever pondering that, however I perceive it’s very regular to guide one thing a month away in my pal group.

Emma: It simply wasn’t in our twenties although, so I really feel like abruptly you’re on this part of life the place you must be a lot extra intentional moderately than similar to all people was free each weekend and was like already out, so you’d stumble upon. And now it’s like, no if I’m gonna see you, we’ve gotta make a plan. And it may be squeezed in between nap instances and completely different instances and it feels much more strive arduous I don’t thoughts that I like residing an intentional life, however I suppose I at all times felt nervous that folks have been gonna interpret it. Like, oh wow, you’re gonna guide this a month out. You’re not chill and I’m like, yeah, I suppose I’m not, I simply wanna see you. 

Elsie: That is smart. There’s a really, very large distinction from like, oh, we’re at this place, come over right here once you’re in your twenties, and like, let’s have lunch subsequent month. So I get it. I’m very acclimated to that way of life although, I don’t have any pals who suppose that we are able to plan one thing the day of. Yeah, however I feel that that’s actually, actually good. I’m glad you might have that group of pals. That sounds actually, actually wholesome and like a giant help system. 

Emma: Yeah, and it’s additionally good when you might have pals who’ve children an identical age or older, you may get recommendation about these new phases or you possibly can play dates. It’s simply all that stuff. That’s good too. 

Elsie: That’s essential for certain. Okay, so something new you’ve tried not too long ago? I do know you tried the salt float. 

Emma: Yeah, I’m really doing this factor to this point this 12 months. I hadn’t deliberate it out, it’s simply been occurring, however I do some form of problem each month, like a small factor. Mainly what I’m doing is ensuring that my habits are nonetheless serving me. So what I did final month was I did a display screen time problem. So every week I would love, I’ve a folder on my cellphone that’s I’d screenshot my display screen time and what I used to be attempting to do was form of gamify it the place I’m attempting to spend much less time on my cellphone and particularly much less time on social media and clearly I spend a while there for work. Additionally like maintaining with pals, it wasn’t like a, Oh, I can’t, that is horrible, all the things is unhealthy. I’m simply this behavior, ensuring it’s serving me, ensuring the period of time I’m spending on there, I’m proud of, and if not altering it. And that was actually constructive, final month was nice. This month what I’m doing is a TV problem. So mainly I’m not watching television within the night. I don’t watch TV through the day, however within the evenings, Monday by way of Thursday. And I nonetheless do on the weekends and I’ll nonetheless watch one thing with Oscar, like watching 20 minutes of vehicles earlier than he goes to mattress, that doesn’t depend, TV for me. I nonetheless need a few of it cuz that’s undoubtedly a time when my husband and I hang around and simply form of like cuddle on the sofa and chill. So I didn’t wanna do no TV as a result of I really feel like I’d miss that. However I even have observed that I’ve a number of books I wanna learn. I’ve all these puzzles that I wanna do, and I haven’t gotten to them but. I’ve my little jewelry-making factor, however I’ve different hobbies. I’ve this clean canvas sitting on an easel in my workplace and I haven’t painted one thing since we moved in. I simply have all this stuff that I’m like, I need to make slightly extra time in my week for actions that I simply need to do. And I feel if I watch much less television, cuz what occurs is we’ll make dinner and we sit down to observe one thing after which we simply keep there. And that’s fantastic typically, however I wanna deliberately change this up this month and simply see how I’m feeling about that. In order that’s what I’m doing this month and it form of performs into your making a extremely nice self-care cuz I like hobbies that aren’t for work. They’re not for something, I’m not promoting them. I’ve no plans for it. I simply wanna paint one thing. Portray’s, simply one among ’em, however yeah, I’ve slightly record on my cellphone of issues I’m gonna do that month and a few of them are making, a few of them are nonetheless consuming, like studying books. 

Elsie: I truthfully don’t have something I’ve tried not too long ago apart from the stuff I already shared. I feel I’m in a survival season as we’re about transfer. Reworking a brand new home and I’m barely getting by. Yeah, I really feel excited to strive extra issues sooner or later. Okay, so is one thing new that you simply wanna strive. Is there something you haven’t gotten to but within the self-care world that you simply need to strive? ​

Emma: I didn’t actually have something for this. Do you might have something new you’re eager to strive?

Elsie: I wanna strive swimming on daily basis. I’ve by no means actually executed that and I’m solely gonna my swimming pool for like two extra months proper now and it’s simply now we may flip the heater on, however we haven’t executed that but. So I may in all probability begin quickly and I simply wanna expertise like every time we first lived right here, Colin was working for me nonetheless and I used to be at all times like, I ought to swim whereas my children are in school. But it surely’s too embarrassing mainly, it’s simply too embarrassing. So I simply by no means did it. In order that’s one thing I’d love to do. I’m on the market with my children and stuff, however I don’t ever do it simply on my own. Even when it’s just a bit bit, that’s one thing I wanna strive as a result of I don’t know, it simply, it appears actually stress-free, and in only a very completely different expertise than taking part in with children to do one thing alone as an grownup. In order that’s one thing I feel can be enjoyable. After which, yeah, once you have been speaking about group health, I used to be serious about that slightly bit. This is among the saddest issues, however the entire time we lived at our previous home in Nashville, we have been actually, actually removed from a Y M C A, any form of group class. It was simply form of not something close to us in any respect. It was like a 30-minute drive or a 20-minute drive, so I couldn’t wait to maneuver right here. We moved right here to Brentwood and the primary weekend that we have been right here, we joined the Y M C A and took our youngsters swimming within the pool. And I used to be all of the lessons I used to be gonna do and the next week was just like the week of March 14th, 2020 and yeah, we canceled our membership after a number of months and we by no means went once more. So I suppose I simply didn’t actually contemplate, I bought my little train bike, and a number of different issues alongside the best way, however I haven’t actually considered doing a gaggle class. So once you have been saying that, I used to be like, perhaps I ought to strive going to Physique Pump with Emma once I moved. That sounds form of enjoyable, we used to do this after we have been in our twenties and I beloved it trigger it was like Nirvana music and pop music and also you simply elevate these tiny little weights with a bunch of actually diversely aged individuals and I feel it’s enjoyable. 

Emma: Yep. It’s superior. 

Elsie: Anyway, so yeah, I feel perhaps a gaggle class can be a enjoyable factor to strive someday this 12 months. What about you? 

Emma: No, I don’t have something new for the long run. I feel I’m simply on my path for now. 

Elsie: Excellent. You’re doing nice. Yeah, and I undoubtedly really feel like I could possibly be doing higher, however I feel I’m pleased with myself for getting by way of what I’ve been getting by way of not too long ago. It has been extra of a difficult time than typical.

Emma: Yeah, there may be by no means any must beat your self up about not doing sufficient self-care. There may be simply your life and deciding if you happen to want some modifications. That’s all No want for any regrets. Yeah, no want for any guilt. 

Elsie: Completely. Okay, so our subsequent phase is a responsible pleasure, treasure, which I don’t suppose we’ve executed on occasion and I took, I don’t know the time to spherical up all of my favourite seltzer. So something within the LaCroix class put down all my favourite ones. So I’m gonna hyperlink all of them within the present notes as a result of I form of suppose that’s part of it’s it is advisable to see the packaging so that you’re within the retailer. To begin with, I’ve at all times beloved seltzer drinks, however a few of them are manner higher than others and I do suppose it’s an opinion factor. So these are simply my favorites, however I feel that it’s best to get those that you simply actually like, and if you happen to haven’t tried a complete bunch, I feel that’s an essential a part of discovering the perfect ones for you. So my primary favourite one is that this model referred to as Aura Bora, and it’s the cutest, it’s just like the tall, skinny cans. It’s the cutest packaging. And I attempted a bunch of flavors that weren’t good a few years in the past after which not too long ago I noticed it on the retailer once more and I grabbed some. And the flavour that I’m obsessive about is strawberry basil and it truthfully would possibly as effectively simply be referred to as plain basil as a result of it simply tastes like basil. However for some purpose, for me, it’s a ten out of 10. I like basil soda, it’s so good. So if you happen to see it, get it. And if you happen to like basil, if you happen to don’t like basil, undoubtedly don’t get it. I prefer it and it’s fascinating to me. So out of those that you simply generally see on the grocery retailer or Goal, my favourite one by lots is Waterloo model Grape, and it must be grape. I feel that the cherry one is okay too, however the grape one for some purpose simply has extra taste and it’s actually, actually good. It’s like a soda.

Emma: Yeah, and I suppose I didn’t strive it for a very long time as a result of I used to be like grape, that’s a child grape soda factor, after which I used to be like grape soda is wonderful. 

Elsie: However that is Selzer, it’s completely different. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s completely different anyway, it’s scrumptious. 

Elsie: Yeah. Okay, so in Bubbly or La Croix? I truthfully suppose that these are each simply, okay, the model, however the perfect taste in my view is watermelon or cherry each time. These are often fairly good in most sorts, in my view. Yeah. I steer clear of the Leroy ones which can be like actually, actually frequent. My husband actually likes the pompom moose one and the lime one, and people are like my least favorites. 

Emma: That’s Trey’s favourite too. Him and Jeremy have the identical sparkly water style. 

Elsie: Okay, so there’s this model referred to as Polar that I see each on occasion. And so they have a taste that’s orange vanilla, additionally Kroger. When you’ve got Kroger in your space they’ve a Kroger model that has orange vanilla and this one is absolutely polarizing, however I adore it. For me, it’s a ten out of 10. It is sort of a creamsicle kind of taste however clearly, there’s no sugar in any of those in any respect. It’s simply the essence of glowing water. So yeah, I feel if you happen to like Creamsicle and also you see a kind of, undoubtedly strive it cuz it sounds unhealthy however for me, it was actually good. After which, okay I put and collect one simply because I really feel like you must, it’s the goal model, I put tropical cherry. I feel it’s the perfect one out of all the things they’ve, and it’s form of just like the one I often get. In order that’s my complete record. Are there some other seltzers that you simply suppose are so good that you simply wanna point out?

Emma: I really actually just like the LaCroix one which’s like cola, which I don’t see it fairly often, however I really actually like that one. I don’t know why as a result of I don’t actually drink like Coke or Pepsi once I get a soda, like with sugar in it, I often get like Sprite as a result of to me that’s just like the childhood soda, I don’t know. However yeah, I kinda just like the cola one, however I’m curious, I simply wanna know what’s your primary least favourite as a result of I’ve one glowing water that I received’t even drink, it’s so unhealthy to me. And it’s additionally a LaCroix. 

Elsie: I personally don’t like Spin Drift, those which have slightly little bit of juice in them and I’ve tried each single form and I can’t keep in mind there was one which was slightly bit tolerable to me, however I simply personally don’t desire these. 

Emma: Identical. I don’t like every of the manufacturers however the spin drifts are those we see probably the most typically. That has precise juice in it, I don’t have a tendency to love these ones. I don’t know why my husband likes it, however yeah, it’s not for me. However no, for me it’s the Coconut LaCroix. Have you ever ever heard of that one? I’ve pals it’s like their favourite. But it surely’s only a polarizing one, in my view, as a result of I really feel like I purchased a case for a celebration as soon as and it was like, individuals have been like, oh my gosh, my favourite. Or they’re like, oh my gosh, no, it tastes like sunscreen.

Elsie: Humorous. I feel my eyes simply skip over that one as a result of I can’t even keep in mind the final time I purchased that one. I’ll say I can drink any of them if I’ve to, if it’s the final one within the fridge, I’ll drink it it doesn’t matter what.

Emma: Apart from coconut, I wouldn’t drink it, however that’s the one one which I’d be like, nah, I’m simply gonna drink faucet water. 

Elsie: Effectively, I’m glad I bought that off my chest as a result of I’ve been wanting to do this record for like, 10 years. 

Emma: No, I see you’re going by way of it and I like, this could possibly be like half an episode if we wished to, I may discuss this for some time.

Elsie: Okay. Inform me your responsible pleasure, treasure. 

Emma: Sure, so I discussed jewellery making, in order that’s form of my responsible pleasure factor. I in all probability spend an excessive amount of cash on beads and different jewelry-making provides. I purchased myself a caboodle that has all my stuff in it, nevertheless it’s already full and now I’ve to have one other field. So it’s that form of factor. We’ll hyperlink this within the present notes. However I not too long ago shared this necklace, I used to be engaged on a submit that’s shrinky dink’s final information and it simply goes by way of learn how to make your individual DIY ones, what papers and kits I like and suppose work effectively, and the undertaking that I made to form of showcase as a result of I wished to indicate a undertaking on there clearly not similar to papers and issues. Was this guide covers necklace I made the place it has, I took like a few of my favourite books and I simply bought the pictures off the web of the duvet, I made them in shrinky dinks and I actually wanna make them, it’s similar to random favourite books. After which I additionally wanna make a Harry Potter one which’s like all of the Harry Potter guide covers, so I’m gonna make that. However anyway, I used to be speaking with my pal, so I discussed my guide membership and all my pals, a few of us, we’re gonna go to Taylor Swift later this summer season. We’re gonna see the Taylor Swift live performance, we’re actually enthusiastic about that and so they have been like, let’s do a jewelry-making get together and make friendship bracelets and it could possibly be form of Taylor Swifty, like do some lyrics or no matter. In my thoughts I used to be like, oh, I’m gonna do make my shrinky dinks and I’m gonna make album covers after which they are often like charms that we placed on our bracelets. So I suppose my responsible pleasure is shrinky dinks. 

Elsie: Okay, we’ll hyperlink Emma’s new weblog submit about shrinky inks as a result of it’s actually good. I like that concept for the live performance, I feel that’s so cute. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s similar to enjoyable and random, and I really was simply making that necklace purely for pleasure, however then I used to be like, oh, I’ve been wanting to write down about shrinky dings, I suppose I may make this right into a weblog submit. Quite a lot of instances our hobbies do flip into work slightly bit, which I don’t thoughts if I really simply love our job too. I’m grateful for the entire thing however there are occasions I strive to not mix the 2 simply so I can hold issues. However this one ended up blended, which is ok. It doesn’t matter, nevertheless it’s nonetheless gonna be my responsible pleasure for this episode. 

Elsie: I like that. That’s a humorous one.

Emma: Shrinky. Dinks. 

Elsie: Sure. Enjoyable.  All proper. It’s time for a joke or a truth with Marigold. Marigold, do you might have a joke for us? 

Marigold: Sure. What does a rose eat for lunch? A rooster salad. 

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